Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Jenny Sanford's Statement and the Repercussions of Mark Sanford's Affair

South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, who had mysteriously disappeared earlier, admitted today that he had an affair over the past year with a "dear friend" from Argentina. His wife of nearly twenty years, First Lady Jenny Sanford, issued the following incredible statement:
I would like to start by saying I love my husband and I believe I have put forth every effort possible to be the best wife I can be during our almost twenty years of marriage. As well, for the last fifteen years my husband has been fully engaged in public service to the citizens and taxpayers of this state and I have faithfully supported him in those efforts to the best of my ability. I have been and remain proud of his accomplishments and his service to this state.

I personally believe that the greatest legacy I will leave behind in this world is not the job I held on Wall Street, or the campaigns I managed for Mark, or the work I have done as First Lady or even the philanthropic activities in which I have been routinely engaged. Instead, the greatest legacy I will leave in this world is the character of the children I, or we, leave behind. It is for that reason that I deeply regret the recent actions of my husband Mark, and their potential damage to our children.

I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity, dignity and importance of the institution of marriage. I believe that has been consistently reflected in my actions. When I found out about my husband's infidelity I worked immediately to first seek reconciliation through forgiveness, and then to work diligently to repair our marriage. We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago.

This trial separation was agreed to with the goal of ultimately strengthening our marriage. During this short separation it was agreed that Mark would not contact us. I kept this separation quiet out of respect of his public office and reputation, and in hopes of keeping our children from just this type of public exposure. Because of this separation, I did not know where he was in the past week.

I believe enduring love is primarily a commitment and an act of will, and for a marriage to be successful, that commitment must be reciprocal. I believe Mark has earned a chance to resurrect our marriage.

Psalm 127 states that sons are a gift from the Lord and children a reward from Him. I will continue to pour my energy into raising our sons to be honorable young men. I remain willing to forgive Mark completely for his indiscretions and to welcome him back, in time, if he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance.

This is a very painful time for us and I would humbly request now that members of the media respect the privacy of my boys and me as we struggle together to continue on with our lives and as I seek the wisdom of Solomon, the strength and patience of Job and the grace of God in helping to heal my family.

What class and forgiveness, after the excruciatingly painful details of her husband's infidelity were exposed for the whole world to see. I sincerely hope that the Sanford's can, with God's help, restore their wrecked marriage.

On another note, this definitely eliminates any chance of a Sanford candidacy for President in 2012. Sanford had the potential to become a serious candidate, though still behind Huckabee, Palin and Romney.

Unfortunately, foolish choices like those made recently by Sanford and Nevada Senator John Ensign have the chance of ruining the GOP's chances at turning things around in 2010. Again, this just proves that no party has a monopoly on losers.

3 comments:

LarryJackson said...

Jenny Sanford sounds like a very classy woman, who is determined to salvage her family and her marriage. Kudos to her is all I can say.

OneMom said...

Mrs. Sanford is certainly a strong woman (and a wealthy one .... her grandfather founded Stihl power tools). Anyway, her most recent comments don't sound like a person dying to have her husband back (who could blame her after he said at his press conference that he had spent the last 5 days crying in Argentina ... so much for ending the relationship). Here are her comments:

"His career is not a concern of mine," she told reporters as she departed the family's vacation home in Sullivan's Island, South Carolina. "He's going to have to worry about that. I'm worried about my family and the character of my children."

She added that she would be fine, with or without her husband.

"I have great faith and great friends and great family. We have a good Lord in this world and I know that I'm going to be fine and not only will I survive, I'll thrive," she said.

"I don't know if he'll be with me, but I'm going to do my best to work on my marriage because I believe in marriage. I believe in raising good kids is the most important thing in the world," she said

Joseph Bojang said...

Yeah, the whole situation is a pretty intense deal. I have the full video of the press conference on my blog. What I find a bit disheartening is that he seems to be stalling quite a bit as he talks and doesn't seem to show that he is really sorry.